There comes a time where a person needs to separate their opinion from the facts. When you are an educator, particularly in young minds, there needs to be a distinct separation between the two. However, when it comes to uni that separation is able to be more subtle due to the minds educating themselves on current topics. Opinions can be made and though they may not be agreed upon, they can be on topic. Take for example culture and the presidency of America. The decisions made by the president can affect culture in a multitude of ways therefore that discussion would be relevant. Alternatively a discussion on whether Severus Snape from the series Harry Potter is a redeemable character or not, is not relevant in a cultural studies class. However, attacking someone based on their opinion? that is just bad manners.
Here are some techniques to utilize while debating without being an a**hole:
- It pays to be open minded. Listen to the other person's opinion. Yes you may not agree with it but that person probably has reasons as to why they think that way. Explore and understand them.
- Have evidence to back up your claims. The best way to develop a healthy argument is to actually be able to discuss the facts. Pros and cons are great!
- Speak civilly. No one wants to listen to someone rude and accusatory in a debate, the point is to calmly argue your opinion. Blustering and swearing will not help you win your case, keep it clean.
- There is a time and a place. Pick your times to argue carefully, as some places or scenarios can be inappropriate. For instance during a lecture is not appropriate especially when the lecturer is trying to teach the rest of your class, instead try discussing it with your tutor after the lecture.
Today I witnessed someone who did the opposite of these techniques during the first lecture I attended this year. It was so ridiculously out of the blue and surreal that hours later, I cannot stop thinking about it. As students at University I would think we know the difference between the lecturers opinion and the course content. Waving a bag around the air and storming out? That is blatantly immature and rude. Certainly not the way to go about a debate in a tertiary setting. Entertaining nonetheless, an interesting start to a year that is sure to be memorable.
Seriously just use manners, xox
Taz
